today is a beautiful day alhamdulillah

marriage
tarbiyah maidaniyah (tarbiyah di lapangan)

the best tarbiyah is the tarbiyah that is directly imposed on you. for example tarbiyah on marriage when attending a dear ukht's wedding. the preparations that everyone went through to get ready for the walimah. the chance to see the akad nikah carried out in such a simple and sweet manner. alhamdulillah. the tazkirah directly addressed to all the other single ikhwah and akhawat to er, get married quickly and the advice to parents to not complicate matters and make it easy for their children. alhamdulillah thumma alhamdulillah. that my dear, is tarbiyah.

the important thing to remember is that marriage is not only the occasion on that special day when two people are wedded, brought together and are made halal for each other.

it's not about the grandness of the ceremony. nor about wasting money, time and energy on remeh-temeh stuff. rather. keep it moderate. and to keep it moderate is not a thing Malaysian muslims understand well. huhu. oh well. we can all do our part to educate families and friends on this inshaAllah

marriage is not a once off thing. it's for life. and life in the afterlife inshaAllah. marriage; is everything that comes after the ceremony. every.single.thing. from adjusting to living alone to living with someone you hardly knew (or you may have known depending on situations), having children and raising them as best as you can biiznillah, growing old together, striving to achieve His redha as long as Allah swt wills it, and returning back to Him when it is time and hoping, praying, working hard so that Allah swt may reunite us with our partner and our family back in Jannah. Jannatul Firdaus, the best of heavens.

there. that's marriage and life in a nutshell for you.

others find it easy to talk of marriage and get ready for it. others find it awfully difficult to even think about it. obviously I belong to the latter group. for fear of not being equipped with enough preparation before going/ to go into that direction.

see, marriage is a means of achieving ustaziyatul alam. not just for the benefit of an individual or two. it's for the ummah. that's a huge thing man! you don't just drop by a marriage ceremony that happened to be yours (excuse the pun); you want to prepare yourself as best as possible. to have a partner in life who would bring you closer to your Creator and guide you to carry out acts of obedience and give you advice when it seems to be that you are straying away. a partner for life to strengthen you in dakwah and tarbiyah. for the ummah.

huhu.
may Allah swt forgive me and my wrongdoings and help me become a better servant for Him.

and the same for you whoever happens to stumble on this.

مع السلامة